Stress is everywhere

Are you one of those people who gets easily stressed out? There is a solution. Contact me or read on to find out what it is.

I have been waiting for a friend out in the street the other day and I happen to overhear a conversation between a couple of young men in their mid twenties who were wearing their business suits. They were talking about work and how stressed and overwhelmed they felt right now. I heard one of them exclaim, ‘ I had enough, I am so stressed and burnt out’. Suddenly, my imagination kicked in and I was seeing myself taking a bold step and walking over to these young men, introducing myself as an Empowerment Coach, offering my services. I knew however that it is unlikely that I would be doing that as it would be highly inappropriate, although it might had been a bold move but at the same time, equally intrusive.

After meeting up with my friend who has three children under the age of 10, we started chatting about our lives and she relayed to me how much stress she was currently under and that she kept having the feeling of being unable to cope with life’s demands. Later on that day I received an e-mail from someone I met at a business networking event. He was telling me that it was 9 o’clock in the evening and he was still in the office and stress was slowly but surely taking over his life.

All events I described happened in one day, which made me think about stress and how much it was becoming the plague of the century or at least of this decade. Society seems to have created the perfect breeding ground for stress. It can breed and multiply at an accelerated rate, infecting our minds and bodies and with that sending us all into an early grave.

I know this is not a cheerful thought and it is very unlike me to think that way as I consider myself a glass half full type of person. So, let’s lighten the mood by saying that stress can very much be brought under control if we know how. Sometimes stress can be eased by changing our circumstances however in most cases this is not possible. A much more effective way of dealing with stress is through our cognitions. What I mean by that is that, the way you view your circumstances and your power over them is crucial. Often by reappraising the situation in a more positive and helpful way, the dark cloud of stress lifts allowing the sun of hope to shine through. ‘How do I do that?’ I hear you say. Well, you do that by challenging your negative thoughts. ‘Yeah, right’, you say ‘it is that easy ha?’. The answer to that question is not a simple one. To learn how to challenge your thoughts and to start doing it, is easy, however you are dealing with your inner critic here, so it might take some time to break the old thinking habits. All that said, I have worked with people who have managed to do just that, therefore I know that it is very much possible!

In my next blog, I will talk about the most common ‘thinking errors’ that cause people stress and I will attempt to shed light on how to challenge and heal them.