success.5Self-Confidence is an essential building block of success. When you have confidence, you are aware of your abilities and are able to set realistic goals in your life, which are achievable. You have an inner drive to make things happen in life. You are unafraid to express your point of view and are aware that you can handle yourself in different social situations. You trust your own judgement and feel empowered.


How to tell if you lack self-confidence?

 However, if you  lack confidence, you could hear yourself say ‘I can’t do it’ and have negative thoughts and beliefs about your abilities. You might even feel self-doubt and notice that you are overly critical of yourself, including your appearance.  Lack of self-confidence might show up in the perceived inability to formulate a plan or achieve your goals. You might notice that you shy away from standing up for yourself and for your beliefs and feel uneasy in social situations.

 If you lack confidence you might find yourself avoiding embarking on new ventures or putting yourself in situations where you might be criticised or where you feel you might fail.  You may lack courage and are unaware of your abilities. Your lack of confidence can even affect the way you communicate and present yourself to the world thereby, influence the opportunities you have in life.

An essential step toward self-confidence

One step you must take if to improve your self-confidence and that is to stare fear in the face and step outside of your comfort zone.  Only when you prove to yourself that ‘you can do it’ will your confidence start to grow.  The more daring you become and the more you approach novel situations with a sense of self-belief the more your confidence will grow.  So, go ahead, decide today to take one tiny step out of your comfort zone and do something that requires you to have some self-confidence.  It might be uncomfortable to start with but please do not allow fear to stand in your way.  Trust me, small consistent steps will walk you to a more confident you.

“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”  
William Jennings Bryan


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success.3While both Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem are rooted in our belief system and therefore, intimately linked, they represent different aspects of our personality.  Belief in our abilities and personal qualities yields high Self-Confidence whereas belief in our self-worth and personal values gives way to a healthy level of Self-Esteem.  Your level of Self-Esteem is reflected by your perception of your self-worth, in other words, it highlights how much you like and value yourself.  When you have high Self-Esteem, your internal dialogue is positive and non-judgemental. You have a positive and optimistic outlook on life and you love and value yourself.  You are happy with your life, your career, and your relationships. You are in good health and you like and appreciate who you are, inside and out.



How to tell that you have low self-esteem?


On the other hand you might suffer from Low Self-Esteem if you are feeling anxious and depressed , afraid of changes and challenges, pessimistic, unable to move forward in life, feel stuck and unhappy, feel that you are  ‘not good enough’  and feel that you are  not lovable.  Each time you tell yourself that you are not good enough or not desirable enough you not only diminish and de-value yourself but you also create self-imposed limitations that blind you from seeing what is possible. Low Self-Esteem can have a huge impact on different areas of your life, including relationships and career.   You might be single and looking for love or you might be in a relationship that no longer makes you happy or you might just want to have more friends, however you are unable to make the necessary changes to make these things happen, as you do not feel and believe that you can. Another possible consequence of having Low Self-Esteem, could be that you are stuck in a job that you dislike and might even experience financial hardship as a result of it.  You might pass on a job offer or delay starting your own business because you do not feel good, knowledgeable, or clever enough.


How to improve it?


There is only one way to improve your self-esteem and that is to start disproving your inner-critique by showing to yourself that you ‘can’.  Embark on novel experiences and adopt new more optimistic thoughts that lead you toward being more satisfied with who you are. The more you accept and like yourself the healthier your self-esteem becomes. Seeing yourself as someone lovable, someone who has things going for him/her and someone who is good enough is crucial. I believe that once you find your inner strength and dare to show who and what you are to the world, success and happiness will follow.

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Success next exit - SignThe concept of Self-Belief describes a state of mind and being, where you have the unshakable belief that you are able to overcome any challenges that life might throw at you and that you are able to create the life that you desire. The level of your Self-Belief can influence virtually all areas of your life, including career, relationships, finances, and health.   When you start to believe in yourself, you become unstoppable and your life will transform for the better.

 The reason why you might lack Self-Belief are usually complex and each individual may differ, however there are two common factors that can affect  people’s level of Self-Belief.  The first one might surprise you, as it takes you back right into your childhood.  Many of your beliefs were formed in the early years of your life and as such have been held for a long period of time. These long held beliefs influence your thoughts, feelings and actions.   You might have been told that you were not good enough, not smart enough, not attractive enough or that life was a struggle.  Your subconscious mind took all of these negative statements on board and stored them as the truth. They became part of your belief system.  You will be pleased to know however that, these beliefs can be challenged and changed and your Self-Belief can be raised. The second factor that can affect Self-Belief is specific events that happened any time during your life, which have knocked your Self-Confidence.  You might have experienced failure at certain tasks, others might have put you down, or a major life change has occurred, such as being made redundant for example, which caused you to lose confidence in your abilities.

Fortunately, by tackling  your limiting beliefs and by challenging your fears you can raise your level of self-belief significantly.  I believe that by working on self-belief’s two close allies self-confidence and self-esteem your self-belief will transform and you’ll be on your way to success in no time.


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hope‘I feel hopeless, despondent, fed up with struggling for money, bored with my life and completely stuck.’ announced a client of mine.  She always thought of herself as someone who is ambitious, reasonably pro-active and most importantly someone who saw the glass half full.  Recently, she had been feeling that life has beaten all hope and optimism out of her leaving her in a place of despair.  These feelings are not unique to my client as unfortunately many of us are experiencing them right now.  I always advise on focusing on the solution and not dwelling on the problem however I must admit that at times this is easier said than done. I came to the conclusion that your feelings and thoughts cannot be denied their voice. They need to be heard.  When you are feeling low you need to hear your own desperation, disillusionment and unhappiness expressed in order to shake the over powering feeling of hopelessness. You need to allow tears to fall and tension to release from your body and mind. Holding it all in or trying desperately to think positive, uplifting thoughts just because self-help experts advise you to do so, will not lead you out of the darkness.  You can find your way out only by accepting your thoughts and feelings no matter how desperate they are, share them with your best friend or your coach/therapist and slowly start to shift your attention toward the light at the end of an extremely long tunnel.  It might be hard but begin to think about all the things you still have in your life and start to light the fire in your mind and heart by looking at all the possibilities. Regaining hope and belief in life could be some way to travel but hope is what keeps us alive what drives us forward to achieve extraordinary things, therefore it worth fighting for.  My client now is taking one day at a time.  She is no longer afraid of judgement or to express her feelings. She is no longer scared of hearing her own desperate voice.  When she speaks I hear resilience in her voice and see the glimmer of hope in her eyes.


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