BUILDING BLOCKS TO SUCCESS – PART 2 – SELF-ESTEEM

success.3While both Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem are rooted in our belief system and therefore, intimately linked, they represent different aspects of our personality.  Belief in our abilities and personal qualities yields high Self-Confidence whereas belief in our self-worth and personal values gives way to a healthy level of Self-Esteem.  Your level of Self-Esteem is reflected by your perception of your self-worth, in other words, it highlights how much you like and value yourself.  When you have high Self-Esteem, your internal dialogue is positive and non-judgemental. You have a positive and optimistic outlook on life and you love and value yourself.  You are happy with your life, your career, and your relationships. You are in good health and you like and appreciate who you are, inside and out.

 

 

How to tell that you have low self-esteem?

 

On the other hand you might suffer from Low Self-Esteem if you are feeling anxious and depressed , afraid of changes and challenges, pessimistic, unable to move forward in life, feel stuck and unhappy, feel that you are  ‘not good enough’  and feel that you are  not lovable.  Each time you tell yourself that you are not good enough or not desirable enough you not only diminish and de-value yourself but you also create self-imposed limitations that blind you from seeing what is possible. Low Self-Esteem can have a huge impact on different areas of your life, including relationships and career.   You might be single and looking for love or you might be in a relationship that no longer makes you happy or you might just want to have more friends, however you are unable to make the necessary changes to make these things happen, as you do not feel and believe that you can. Another possible consequence of having Low Self-Esteem, could be that you are stuck in a job that you dislike and might even experience financial hardship as a result of it.  You might pass on a job offer or delay starting your own business because you do not feel good, knowledgeable, or clever enough.

 

How to improve it?

 

There is only one way to improve your self-esteem and that is to start disproving your inner-critique by showing to yourself that you ‘can’.  Embark on novel experiences and adopt new more optimistic thoughts that lead you toward being more satisfied with who you are. The more you accept and like yourself the healthier your self-esteem becomes. Seeing yourself as someone lovable, someone who has things going for him/her and someone who is good enough is crucial. I believe that once you find your inner strength and dare to show who and what you are to the world, success and happiness will follow.

Please contact me if you feel you need some assistance with building success through improving your self-esteem.