Frequently Asked Questions

 What is the difference between coaching and counselling?

People who seek counselling are generally at a low point in their life, facing distress and emotional pain. Coaching however focuses on a population that is often referred to as the ‘worried well’, who wish to improve their lives and do not have deep rooted psychological issues. Counselling focuses on the past and present whereas Coaching directs attention to the present and the future. Coaching is a self-directed learning where, with the aid of the coach, the clients become their own advisor and define their own goals. It is a process of empowerment.

How does coaching work?

Coaching is a two way interactive process, a collaborative partnership between you and I that is based on trust, confidentiality and commitment. I will guide you to define your goals and achieve them by asking questions that are challenging and thought provoking and by inviting you to reflect on what you have shared with me. Coaching is non-prescriptive, which means I will not be giving you any answers but helping you to explore your own solutions for to apply to life. Ultimately, you will assume responsibility for your progress. I will however nudge you along your chosen path at your own speed.

What happens during a coaching session?

Each session is 60 minutes in length during which the focus is on you. You have my undivided attention and support. I usually start each session with checking how you are and what has occurred since the last session. Together, we review your progress. I invite you to talk about yourself, your perceptions and beliefs. You are encouraged to tell me about the triumphs, successes, insights you have achieved and the challenges, setbacks you have encountered since our last meeting.

During a typical coaching session you are the one who is talking 80-90% of the time. I ask you carefully selected, challenging yet compassionate questions which aim to unlock new perspectives and encourage you to generate a number of possible options and solutions to your issues. The coaching questions are designed to challenge your current thinking and by shifting your perspective, evoke personal growth and unlock hidden, not yet realized talents and potentials. I also use coaching models (mainly based on Cognitive Behavioural Coaching), exercises, motivational strategies and constructive support to help you meet and exceed your goals and desires.

I help you to break your main goals down into bite size, manageable chunks. Each coaching session is designed to take you closer to your desired outcome and builds on the previous one.

Each coaching session gives you the opportunity to become aware of things that might be holding you back by talking them through and breaking them down to formulate a plan of action. Your next step is formulated by you based on the discussion, the solutions you generated and barriers you uncovered. At the end of each session we agree on a suitable and attainable goal and you will have a clear understanding of what your objectives are. I follow up each session with an e-mail with the summery of our session.

How long do I need to be coached for?

It depends on what you wish to accomplish, your needs and desires. You need to remember that big changes won’t happen overnight. It will take time to undo years of procrastination, self-doubt or whatever issue you might have and challenge some or all your limiting self-beliefs. It will also take time to put a plan into action and to see it through.

It is suggested that you make a 3 month commitment to the process, which will allow time to see the benefits of coaching and to establish and cement positive changes. I recommend a minimum of 6 sessions as it will give us time to explore what really matters to you and create a plan of action.

What do I have to do for coaching to work for me?

  • Be committed
  • Be patient with yourself
  • Allow time for the process to work
  • Work on the identified goals
  • Be prepared to let go of self-sabotaging behaviour and unhelpful thoughts and beliefs

What can I expect from you, my coach?

  • Belief in YOU
  • Empathy and understanding
  • Motivation and encouragement
  • Unconditional support and commitment
  • Confidentiality
  • Treating you as an individual
  • Attentive listening
  • Creativity

Under what circumstances is coaching not recommended?

Coaching is not recommended for people who need:

  • Counselling
  • Therapy
  • Help with chronic depression or mental illness
  • Help with a medical condition or addiction
  • Finacial advice
  • Legal advice


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